Sometimes in life the only appropriate response is to throw your hands up in the air to admit defeat. Standing on the bow of a sinking ship isn’t going to do you any favors. The same goes for relationships. We all make decisions in life, and we tend to choose the paths that make our lives better in some way.
Everybody wants to be happy and we all hold different recipe cards. Every now and then you need to take a look at all the people in your life and reassess their place in your story. The goal is, and has always been, to surround yourself with people who bring out the best in you. People who make your life better. Life is too preciously short to spend it with people who add nothing -or worse- take away from your happiness. Similarly, if someone doesn’t see value in what you add to their life, there is no use sticking around.
If we can learn to recognize relationships for what they are rather than the sentiments we paint on them, we can live happier and healthier lives. I feel like sometimes we allow others to treat us poorly for longer than we should because we project certain qualities onto them that we wish were there, or expect to be there, rather than seeing the reality. Furthermore, people change as their lives change. Someone could be your best friend one day, and completely avoid you the next. We’re a tricky species that way.
Now, when you discover a person or multiple people in your life who don’t add anything to it, and it goes on for long enough, you might want to think about burning bridges. When someone seemingly doesn’t care about you or doesn’t make you a priority at all, it’s time to bow out. Spend your energy, your thoughtfulness, and your time on people who appreciate it and return it. It can be tricky to learn how to let go, but your life will be better for it.