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We’re All in Transition – Embracing Change

We’re All in Transition – Embracing Change

Do people change? I think there are always some aspects of ourselves that we can change, and others that are hard coded into our DNA. One thing that’s for certain is that each and every one of us is always evolving. We gather new information about the world and draw from our experiences, and we grow. Sometimes this happens slowly and gradually over the course of many years, and other times a significant event can cause us to change immediately the way we do things.

It’s common to be afraid of change and to reject it when possible. Most of us would be more comfortable if our lives were to remain static; everything in its place; predictable days. Most of us can also agree that would be pretty boring. When you’ve had a lot of negative change thrust upon you in your life, you eventually learn to just roll with it. Why resist change when it’s inevitable?

We all want to pursue happiness in our lives and most of us have goals that, once reached, will get us one step closer to just that. The perfect job, the perfect relationship, the perfect home, the perfect family, the perfect vacation… yet so many are afraid of the little changes that will bring them closer to reaching what they want.

Time and time again, I’ve watched people I care about (as well as myself) shy away from success in all aspects of life, and for what? Some may say it’s a fear of failure, others may say they’re more comfortable not taking any major risks. Some get caught up in their unhappy little lives the way they are because the familiarity of mediocrity is somehow more comfortable than taking a chance.

There is obvious appeal to wanting to stay in one place, but attempting to do so is only ever as successful as the deceit it takes to convince yourself that you’re not moving. Because the world doesn’t stop. Time ticks on. We’re all in transition, all of the time. When you allow yourself to become content with less, you’re creating your own tomb. You’re placing yourself in a cycle of being unhappy and unfulfilled, but never doing anything to change it.

Will there be obstacles? Absolutely. Any number of horrible things could happen to you in your life, and make you want to just give up; throw in the towel and settle for life in a box. You might get fired from your job, or the love of your life might leave without explanation, or a loved one may die. You could have an addiction or otherwise poor health. You could suffer any number of accidents, bad luck, broken hearts or rejections. You might look at any or all of these things as a reason to sit in a corner, cross your arms, and refuse to see any potential in your life.


You could stand. You could learn and grow and adapt. You could use these negative circumstances as an excuse to try something different this time. Step outside your box and smell the fresh air, ripe with opportunities if only you’d recognize and reach for them. As long as your heart still pumps blood, you have the ability to change your circumstances and create the life you want for yourself.

Dear Me 1

Dear Me 1

Dear Me,

Things have been pretty tough lately, haven’t they? I know that you’ve been working hard to get on the right track, and that it doesn’t always feel like you’re going anywhere. I think maybe if you stop worrying about trying to be perfect all the time, it’ll be easier. Not everything is black and white. You don’t have to do perfectly or not try at all. Next time you want to sabotage yourself, just stop. Stop for a moment and think, is this really what I want? You and I both know that it isn’t.

Spend more time inside. Your mind is always reaching, reaching, reaching for the next thing. Stop worrying about it. Go sit; and I mean really sit and watch your thoughts… like traffic, but don’t get into swept away with it. Just watch. See what I see. It’ll make sense then.

Don’t get involved in work drama. That’s not who you are. It’s hard not to get sucked into it, I know, but step back. Remember why you’re there.

Dear me, you’ve been accumulating too much stuff. Stop buying things you don’t need just because they are on sale. You’re making more clutter around you which will only clutter your mind. You and I both know you’re only trying to fill a void; to get some quick dopamine high from something new. But that high will fade quickly and you know it. These things will not make you happy, nor will they help define you as a person. Only your thoughts and actions can do that, so work on those.

I know that at this point you’re afraid to read it, but started editing your story. Will it suck? Maybe. Just dive into it. If it sucks, so what? You wrote it in a month and if nothing else it was a great learning experience. Start a new book if it sucks.

Take care of yourself! How many times have I told you to stop eating all that junk? Remember your yellow bird. It’s tattooed on your damn wrist to remind you and yet you keep self destructing. You want to live a long time. Make some goals. Stick to them and you’ll do great.



Books I Want to Read in 2017

Books I Want to Read in 2017

Every year, Goodreads (if you haven’t been to this website and you’re a reader you need to check it out. Seriously) holds an annual goal event to encourage people to read more. You input a number of books that you plan on reading for the year, and as you use the site and complete books, it keeps track of how you’re staying on schedule for your goal. I have seen goals ranging everywhere from 1 to 120. My own goal this year is 25, and here are a few of the ones I want to consume.

Underworld by Don Delillo – This book has been my Everest. Don Delillo is one of my favorite authors but this work of his has eluded me due to its immense size.

The Dark Tower Books 4-8 – This is my second read-through of this most excellent Stephen King series. My first was throughout high school and shortly thereafter. I have never read the 8th and final book in the series (The Wind Through the Keyhole) but when it was released in 2012, I knew I wanted to re-read everything before I got to it. This year I’m hoping to finish what I started last year.

The Sun Also Rises by Ernest Hemingway – Another of my favorite authors and a book that I’ve always wanted to read.

One Hundred Years of Solitude by Gabriel Garcí­a Márquez – This is another author that I love and a book that’s been on my To Read list for quite some time.

The Secret Garden by Frances Hodgson Burnett – This was one of my favorite books as a child and I recently bought a really nice leather-bound copy of it that I can’t wait to read so that I can bask in the nostalgia.

These are the books I’m most excited to read this year. The rest of the 25 to make up my goal will consist of whatever happens to capture my attention or whatever is recommended to me at the time.
Do you have any reading goals for 2017?

To New Beginnings in 2017

To New Beginnings in 2017

What better time to set some new goals than at the beginning of the year? Sure, it’s corny and most New Year’s Resolutions fall by the wayside 15 seconds into the year, but I have a lot in the works and I think laying out a plan for them is helpful.

Editing My NovelRavenscrag is the name of the novel I completed for NaNoWriMo 2016. It’s a really cool story (at least I think so) but it needs a lot of work before it’s ready to be read. Writing quickly with your inner editor turned off is great for getting the words out, but they are far from perfect. Beginning in January, I’m giving myself 3 months to edit into a second draft. I don’t think I’ll need the full 3 months, but who knows? After that, I’ll be looking for beta readers to read it and give me some helpful feedback.

Another Novel? – I want to start another novel in 2017. I have no idea what it will be about yet, but I have a whole notebook filled with inspired little scribbles that I’ve been marking down this past year and some of them are just begging to be fleshed out.

Eating Healthier – The most cliché resolution of all, but I really want to stick with it this year for a healthier body and mind.

Consistent Meditation – I want to bring consistency to my meditation practice this year, meaning daily practice. I’m really wanting to make some progress in this area as things have been relatively stalled out for quite some time.

Spend Less Time on Social Media – This is one of the biggest time sucks for me. I spend too much time on Facebook, YouTube, Twitter, and Reddit. I find myself wound up in petty arguments or wasting hours just consuming meaningless drivel. In 2016 I started to spend more time reading and less time online, and this year I would like to continue that trend.

Regular Blogging – I missed writing regularly. A lot. My lack of regularly emptying my thoughts onto page contributed to the relapse in my mental illness last year. This year I’m bringing back regular content and making it a priority to post… dare I say daily? If not, then pretty close to it I think.